Father Tim Lemlin
It seems that whenever we try to do for God, we end up doing for ourselves. We stop participating and we begin to determine. Many of us have experienced the disastrous effects that result from our trying to do for other people. Parents continually battle the temptation to do for their children (even when their children have become adults). The sitcom, Everyone Loves Raymond, gives us outrageous and sometimes funny examples of a mother and a father who do for their two sons. This dysfunctional family continually attempts to manipulate each other through the use of bribes, lies and blackmail.
Good teachers soon realize that they can't do for their students. The learning process demands that each individual come to the place where he or she wants to learn. The best teachers have the ability to create an atmosphere in which the students feel that they are participating in something bigger than themselves, and that their participation is important to themselves and others.
Micro-managing of any kind usually causes anger to quickly rise within us. I recently read an article about a man who died a few years back from cancer. Mike lived and worked with anyone who was in need, but especially with those who found themselves on the margins of society. He didn't do for people. He didn't try to change anyone, or manage their lives. He simply recognized the gift that each person is. This led him to see opportunities in which he could invite others to participate in the same love in which he participated. This kind of love is contagious.
While eating one day at a local restaurant, a feeling welled-up within Mike that when he came into some money he would try to set up an account with the restaurant. This way those who couldn't afford it would be able to experience the same joy he experienced, the joy of eating in a restaurant. He was soon given a gift for $5,000. He approached the owners, a married couple, to discuss his plan. The owners accepted and began to serve anyone who desired a meal but could not pay for it. Word quickly spread and the restaurant became frequented by many who desired a hot meal. Some time later, Mike figured that the money must have been used, so he re-visited the couple. He was surprised to discover that the original amount still had about $1,200 remaining. The couple, who gave generous helpings, also found ways to make the money last longer.
We see each year the generosity that is generated by the birth of a helpless child to a lowly couple. Each participated in something that initially caused them fear but soon engulfed them with love. It is a love that captures our attention and enables us to participate in each other's moments of joy and pain. It is a love that frees us to recognize the gift that stands before us, annoys us, threatens us, insults us, or loves us. All participate in the love of God that is so much greater than any one of us, or all of us together.
Neither does God do for us. God simply waits in pregnant silence for us to awaken to the love that flows through each one of us - a love that transforms us into the image of God. This is who are. This is who are to become. We can't build a house in which God can dwell. God dwells within us - a house that God has already created.
